My first MySpace stalker (that I know of!)
There are few things that anger me more than someone trying to hit on me even though I have made it clear that I am not only taken, but engaged; not only engaged, but happily engaged. I think it is disrespectful. I find it downright creepy and alarming when a complete stranger does it via MySpace.
Look what I found in my MySpace inbox yesterday. Looks like this guy recently got on there... hopefully not to track me down. He wrote:
You do not know me. I saw you in Spokes Magazine and since then I have really wanted to get to know you. It is one of things that I just do not understand, but happens.
To be honest with you, I do not even know where I am going with this, but ever since I saw you in the magazine you have become an obsession. I told myself, I want to know her. I guess it is because it is unusual to see a good-looking chick doing what I love most.
I see that you are dating someone, but you never know what Wonders life has for you. I might be right or wrong, only Our GREAT FATHER GOD knows. Anyway, my name is M****** and I would love to hear from you from you soon. Here is my e-mail: ******@hotmail.com
On one hand, it makes me happy when people take a moment of their time to drop me a line with some feedback. I also enjoy when people post comments on the blog. If he had written something like: I really enjoyed your article. Cheers, M*****
I would not be scared, worried, or angry. But no, he had to go ahead and push his luck.
I have not written him back yet. All I can think to write is to tell him briefly that I am not interested, if I write him back at all.
If you were in my situation, what would you write? Please post it in my comments section.
P.S. For the last week or so I have been unable to use special characters such as quotation marks or exclamation points on Blogger. Hence, my lack of contractions. Sorry. When I have time I will research this Blogger issue.
Look what I found in my MySpace inbox yesterday. Looks like this guy recently got on there... hopefully not to track me down. He wrote:
You do not know me. I saw you in Spokes Magazine and since then I have really wanted to get to know you. It is one of things that I just do not understand, but happens.
To be honest with you, I do not even know where I am going with this, but ever since I saw you in the magazine you have become an obsession. I told myself, I want to know her. I guess it is because it is unusual to see a good-looking chick doing what I love most.
I see that you are dating someone, but you never know what Wonders life has for you. I might be right or wrong, only Our GREAT FATHER GOD knows. Anyway, my name is M****** and I would love to hear from you from you soon. Here is my e-mail: ******@hotmail.com
On one hand, it makes me happy when people take a moment of their time to drop me a line with some feedback. I also enjoy when people post comments on the blog. If he had written something like: I really enjoyed your article. Cheers, M*****
I would not be scared, worried, or angry. But no, he had to go ahead and push his luck.
I have not written him back yet. All I can think to write is to tell him briefly that I am not interested, if I write him back at all.
If you were in my situation, what would you write? Please post it in my comments section.
P.S. For the last week or so I have been unable to use special characters such as quotation marks or exclamation points on Blogger. Hence, my lack of contractions. Sorry. When I have time I will research this Blogger issue.
posted by Mansard at 5:49 PM
14 Comments:
Hey, you should feel flattered in some remotely creepy way. How come you get all the cool email? All's I ever get is requests for illegal software and then follow ups on how to use them. So are you going to post his real name and email addy?
I'd ignore it. I think replying would only instigate more from him. I had a similar thing on facebook.com where some kid added me to his friends list and then was like "well we're friends on facebook, so we should go out sometime." He didn't even go to my school. He pestered me for 2 months. He sounds kind of creepy.
DO NOT RESPOND! And block him and all emails from him. (I think you can do this on MySpace. I know youcan on Friendster.) That is creepy as hell.
I've had a couple of creepy cyberpeople try to reach out and touch me. Keep the e-mail - and any more that he sends - in a file, but don't respond!
"M---,
It is very disturbing to be contacted by someone who claims to be obsessed with me. Even more so to be contacted by someone who shouts about "GREAT FATHER GOD" while apparently praying for the failure of my happy relationship.
Never contact me again,
Cpt J.S."
he definately crosses a number of lines in his comments and should be ignored. he doesn't seem interesting or fun and clearly wants a lot more than friendship or an e-mail exchange about biking.
this is further proof for my theory that My Space is for crazy people. sane people should abandon it.
Don't respond. I engaged with someone who turned out to be nuts and he kept going back to things I said, or the fact that I had written back to begin with. The more ammo you give someone, the worse it is. Even negative attention encourages them.
Personally, I don't see any reason to respond - but if I did, I would be honest and clear with him. Blackbeard's comment above seems about right.
Worst case scenario, would be to make up an excuse that is convenient and easy, but untrue.
um. i probably wouldn't publically humiliate him. Don't u watch popular cinema?
When all information that could possibly identify the person has been redacted, how can they possibly be publically humiliated?
Sounds more like personal humilation, and in this case, well-effing-deserved.
We're socialized to 'be nice,' but I think the smartest thing to do in this case -- especially for just-in-case legal purposes -- is to respond in no uncertain terms that you are NOT INTERESTED and that you would appreciate it if he didn't contact you again.
I've been stalked before. I was too nice for too long, and he took to e-mailing me all day, calling me all evening and waiting for me outside my office after work each day. I wish I hadn't waited until he became belligerent before I told him to fuck off.
yea
in one situation it would be passionate
but then again
in the old black and white movies a woman would run away, the man would grab them, hold them tight, shake them, slap them across the face, then kiss them
and well
that is no longer considered passion
good luck with this
I think you have handled this well thus far
(from your post above)
people play thing through their heads and make illogical leaps
captain
I hope this is clearing it self up
gwadzilla out
Thanks for everyone's comments. I must admit, I used to teach English. So I solicited comments/writing to hear what everyone would say, even though I knew I would probably write him back and tell him he was disrespectful and to leave me alone....
I also talked with a counselor about it...
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